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The new extremes, said Steiner-Adair, can be damaging.Boys don't benefit, she said, from learning to be demeaning toward girls or to treat them as sexual objects.They describe it as "goofing around, flirting," said Catherine Steiner-Adair, a clinical psychologist and school consultant who interviewed 1,000 students nationwide for her new book, "The Big Disconnect: Protecting Childhood and Family Relationships in the Digital Age." How the hookup culture affects young people has long been debated and lamented, in books and blogs, among parents and teachers.A general consensus is that it harms girls, although some have argued that it empowers them.A 15-year-old girl sits in high school English class when a text message pops up on her cellphone. Will you at least be my girlfriend." It's the kind of scenario that's playing out among teens across America, illustrating an increasing confusion among boys about how to behave, experts say.
The girl, who had never seen her boyfriend naked, was shocked, and said she felt the relationship had suddenly lost its innocence. The girl wondered if she should tell him how his initial approach had offended her.
The effect on boys, however, is less often part of the discussion.
Conventional wisdom tends to oversimplify the situation to something along the lines of: Boys get to have sex, which is really all they want. Reality is far more complex than this, in ways that can affect young men socially and emotionally well into adulthood, according to Steiner-Adair.
"That's the stuff that helps people grow up," he added.
The key to developing solid relationships lies partly in early education, said Steiner-Adair.