Dating someone with chronic fatigue syndrome
Content Header .feed_item_answer_user.js-wf-loaded . Content Header .feed_item_answer_user .anon_user.logged_out . Other days, I might be able to do some housework and go for a walk, but my brain fog won’t let me concentrate long enough to send an email, talk on the phone or watch anything on TV.
Trying to understand what it must feel like to be suddenly overtaken by this unavoidable, inescapable fatigue. How do we have a relationship with another human being when our relationship with our body has to be our number one priority? And when my boyfriend gets angry, we yell, we cry and we process it together. I exit the daily grind of my work, my relationship and my life to give my body a break. And also, and most impressively, I meet partners who stay and show up. What potential partner can’t see the amazingness in that?!
Not only do I not know how much energy I’ll have each day, I also don’t know what kind of energy I’ll have.
Some days I might have a brain that works pretty well, but a body that doesn’t, and I’ll be able to sit in bed and work in my pyjamas, even if I can’t leave the house.
Gabrielle Roth says, “Your body is the ground metaphor of your life, the expression of your existence. How do we create an equal relationship based on love and independence and freedom when sometimes we need to be completely looked after? We look at chronic fatigue as our child, and if we nurture her and look after her, she will grow, flourish and bloom. They ultimately know no one is perfect and your illness is also your badass superpower. These partners process with each other when it all gets too hard and I see them taking responsibility for themselves and their emotions that come up.