Dating a single mom with 3 kids
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Trust is a big issue for me, so the very idea of letting someone into our lives is hard.But exposing Nikki to someone new who might not be around in a month seems cruel, given her already uprooted childhood. A smart mom asks other moms how they handled the same or similar situations. Of the divorced moms I know, only one did know how to handle my situation.And since she is way ahead of me in the dating game, I picked her brain a little and this is what she had to say: When I first broached the subject of dating with my daughter, her first reaction was, "Why? " Lately, as boys become objects of some interest, she’s starting to mellow her attitude. Her children's games are the only ones she wants to play. Feel like she's perfect except you don't want kids? Instead of pretending you know what it's like, ask questions and be humble. Be ready for rapid-fire spontaneity or an ironclad calendar. She probably doesn't need saving, but she definitely needs a massage. If you want to whisk her away for a romantic weekend, offer to help with the parental logistics so she's relaxed on her trip, not distracted with worry. It's probably best you move along if either of you wants something long-term. You might have a really fun time with your nephew at Christmas, but this isn't the same as cleaning up vomit at 3 a.m. At least not until you're all functioning as a family unit, which takes time, honesty, and patience, and possibly some therapy. You're at the mercy of custody agreements, parent-teacher conferences, skinned knees, stuffy noses, and — buy her wine for this one — lice. Throw everything you know about Sunday Funday out the window. Handling what life serves is her modus operandi — she's been handling it since before you came along, and she's prepared to handle it if you leave. Pamper her because you admire her Terminator strength to always keep going.