Ask a guy questions before dating
Katherine Woodward Thomas shares her own personal experience to show women that in order to find the relationship that will last a lifetime, you have to be truly open and ready to create a loving, committed, romantic union.
But if you're polyamorous and you're dating someone who's monogamous, and neither one of you will budge on the matter, it'll be an issue. Although asking about one's finance's on a first date would be a little much, if you want to evolve with someone, then this is something you want to discuss.
"But it's better to get the major points out of the way before you continue moving forward. You and your partner need to be seeing eye-to-eye on the decision."You don't want to date someone hoping they'll change their mind about the kid thing, knowing you want them and won't change your mind or vice versa.
So ask the questions early and, as Winter tells Bustle, if your partner does want kids, ask about how many kids and, if faith is a component, how they want those kiddos to be raised.
Even if you marriage isn't for you, moving in together and sharing a life together, probably is — at least eventually.
You want to make sure you both have the same direction in mind.